Laurens Martin

Do you want the world to be a better place or do you just want you, and only you, to make the world a better place?



Perhaps we have made critical practice something impossibly large. When the stakes are power structures, global economies, racial tension, social stratification— when they are macro level “wicked problems”, we have no choice but to speculate. To speculate and leave it at that, that is. Speculation…

Via: Greg Ponchak

i’ll do whatever i feel like, viva la impulsivity, viva la I have no idea what I’m doing but whatever I feel I should do is probably the best i could possibly do. forget thinking, forget common sense. common sense is for people brainwashed by society. ofc they are brainwashed. no need for common sense and no need for any consideration. no need to take any consequences of my impulsivity in consideration. no need to take people who are affected by any consequences of my impulsivity in consideration. they should not be taking my happiness away. viva la me.

Geluk is een griploos handvat en verdriet een mantel van velcro.

facebook account as a birthday present for 12 year olds➝



If we could independently offer ourselves self-affirmation and let go of the conviction that we ought to take part in our excessively social culture, would loneliness still be such a daunting matter?

humans are social animals, this excessively social culture is both the…

Note that I’m not, in any way, denying the fact that humans are social creatures. Nor am I am saying we should stop being social alltogether. Although what you say about social media is true and yes, it’s influence in general is undeniably relevant to this— I do think you might be missing what it is exactly I’m questioning here, or perhaps you’re reacting to a more specific (mis)interpretation of what I’m trying to say. Either way, we are expected to take part in all sorts of social activities, which often go beyond the online world. Going out every weekend as a teen, having some small talk with an old friend you see in town, being together with family at Christmas, celebrating new year at your mates, going to the movies, etc. And in fact I don’t think there’s generally anything wrong with doing such things. Especially when you’re making others sincerely happy by doing so. Whether or not doing these things is not the issue here. The motivation behind our choice to do so, however, is. If one does not take part in such social activities to the extent of what is socially accepted, he/she is often immediately considered lonely. Considered lonely by others and by her-/himself. We take part in all sorts of social activities anyway, to or beyond the extent of what is socially accepted, to avoid being ‘lonely’— or what is considered lonely— in all cases. Which is where the danger lies. Why do we think not being social in a way, and to an extent defined by our culture, makes us lonely? At that point, are we really lonely or in fact just jealous/anxious/insecure; feelings that are probably, at least in this case, born from the conviction by ourselves and/or others that we’re actually lonely? Do we only take part in social activites to such extent because we’re anxious? If we could offer ourselves self-affirmation, convince ourselves that we’re not a shit person when we don’t take part in mundane or not-so-mundane social activites at all; or to an extent which is unfairly expected by our culture, would we still individually be convinced that we’re lonely (while really that’s an illusion in this case), and consequently start feeling jealous, anxious and/or insecure when we arent taking part to that expected extent?

Please don’t answer these questions. That’s not why I’m questioning all of this. The answers are simple. Living upon the answers is not.

I’m not saying we shouldn’t be social. I’m not saying small talk or any traditional “social activity” is pointless or shouldn’t exist. I’m not saying spending time together is a bad thing. I’m not denying we’re social creatures. That’s not the issue. The issue lies in our motivations.

That said, I am not convinced that succes in ‘following your dreams’ on itself is a way to reach self-affirmation. In fact, I am actually convinced being able to offer ourselves self-affirmation is essential to being able following our own dreams in the first place.

Via: fucking stranded

If we could independently offer ourselves self-affirmation and let go of the conviction that we ought to take part in our excessively social culture, would loneliness still be such a daunting matter?